This is the biggest reason for failure in peoples lives. Lack of willpower. I know I’m going to sound like a motivational speaker. I wish I was able to motivate people to do what I have done. Sadly I’ve been unable to help one single person yet. Simply because these people, despite all my trying to inspire them, don’t have the willpower and they have fallen short.
Why? They simply can not deal with any kind of inconvenience to their lives to do the things I have done. I’ve done all my achievements due to one reason. Willpower! I wanted it to happen. I made it happen! End of story for me.
What have I done?
- I quit smoking (no patches or medications – I just quit cold turkey)
- I ended a horrible relationship
- I fixed my finances
- I fixed my credit score
- I built up a savings
- I found a good job that I enjoy
- I got a better car
- I fulfilled my dreams of having musical instruments to learn and enjoy
- I lost a serious amount of weight
- I found God
I’m sure everyone around me is sick of me touting my successes. I can’t help but be proud of myself! I’m not special by any means.
Call it:
- Determination
- Willpower
- Resolve
- Motivation
Call it whatever you like. You have to have it in order to achieve your goals. Plain and simple. There is no magic. No quick fix. It is you who has to make it happen. You can have help, but help doesn’t matter if you don’t get off your ass and actually do it. Your partner, friend or family member won’t always be there to be your cheerleader. You have to take whatever inconvenience life throws at you and work through it.
Sadly, I wish I could inspire others. I try. I really do, but I see them all fall short so quickly.
They want to lose weight? But can’t give up the comfort foods that are bad for them.
They want to fix their finances? They can’t stop giving money to others or buying things they don’t really need. Or be bothered to make cutbacks.
They want to quit smoking? But can’t deal with the stresses in life or give up that feeling it gives them.
The list goes on, but in short it’s because they can’t be inconvenienced. They can’t be uncomfortable in their lifestyles to make the necessary changes. They have NO WILLPOWER.
I get it. It’s hard. Life gets that way. I pretty much lost everything in my life 3 different times. I have been through 3 shit marriages. I have filled bankruptcy every time for each marriage. I had nothing for years because I let it happen. I didn’t want to be inconvenienced. The last straw came and I had enough. I dug in, I got my willpower and I got things done! You reach these kind of goals and it’s like a whole new drug. The drug to succeed. I’m not rich. Never will be. But I’m happier than ever. I wish I could go back and fix everything years ago. I can’t, but I won’t let anything or anyone stand in my way of having my control over my life again! I’ll never stop trying to motivate others to do the same. Even if it’s not through my examples. Want to fix your finances? Try The Ramsey Show. While I didn’t know about him when I fixed mine, I pretty much did his process. Want to lose weight? Try Dr. Eric Berg. Again, I did it on my own, but he’s teaching the same things.
You can do it! IF… You really want it!